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Post by tylliesmam on Feb 28, 2017 0:05:16 GMT
Hi guys am new here after losing my baby girl back in September. Recently felt ready to start fostering and took in a little dog two weeks ago today. He's been found a new home already, goes on Saturday. Only one snag. I have totally fallen in love with him! And he with me. I feel awful thinking he's going to be bewildered thinking why has he been left again but I know he'll adapt quicker than me. Just looking for tips on how I manage this from those who've maybe been here too?!😕
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Post by Splottlands on Mar 3, 2017 15:43:56 GMT
Aww so sorry for your loss, but good on you for feeling able to open your home again to a dog in need  We've fostered for a number of years, and giving them up doesn't get any easier, it doesn't seem to make any difference whether they have been with us for 2 weeks or 6 months. I warn the prospective adopters in advance that I'll cry, and that I'm not being rude but really can't go the the car; I have to say my goodbyes in private. I think what helps me is knowing that I've helped: by having a foster in your home you can give better and more detailed info about their likes and dislikes, how they react to things in the home, how they are with visitors, around food, around toys etc etc - all knowledge which is difficult to ascertain within a kennel environment. Your foster boy will be taking love and security to his new home, which is the best we can give. He has you to thank for this. I also ask myself if I could give the foster pupster the life they deserve and need: if the answer is no - which with work, time and other commitments it usually is - then I smile through my tears, wave them off with their bed and toys and hope their new parents send me a few photos now and then. It is so very hard, but knowing we make such a huge difference should help you, and I hope you feel able to take on another foster looking for his or her forever home  |
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Post by tylliesmam on Apr 4, 2017 23:36:16 GMT
Aww thanks so much Splottlands, only now I'm seeing your reply. Think I was a bit traumatised when I posted about my foster son and not sure how to use this site. Trawling again now looking for a woman I support find a furry companion of her own. Am happy to report I survived the fostering goodbye though not without a fight. You are totally right about having too many other commitments at the moment though, same is true for me. I've been so lucky as new mum is amazing and has kept me updated pretty much every day with new 'firsts'! Have even had contact - supervised by mum in case I tried to kidnap him. He is so happy as has a new furry sister too, is in seventh heaven. Absolutely the right decision for him and my survival, and subsequent kennel visits with woman I'm helping, have reassured me I should be able to cope with it again once work settles down. Thank you so much for your kind words  |
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Post by Splottlands on Apr 16, 2017 15:51:55 GMT
I'm so pleased for you, and happy that you feel able to continue fostering. It isn't easy, but that just means we care, and I'd worry if we didn't have mixed emotions when waving our foster pupsters off to their forever families. We watch them blossom under our care and of course we're going to love and miss them. Ohh I love sharing "firsts," I bet his new mum is as pleased as punch to be able to share them with you; I usually bore the Rescue or foster home rigid with updates when we take on a newbie, every little new thing makes me grin. Glad you can see he's happy  |
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